Introduction to the secrets about fear
Many often grow up feeling something is wrong with them or probably begin to have a little low self-esteem because of a feeling called fear. Well, do you really think you are the only one who has got a fair share of it? I guess not.
We all have a fair share of fear. It’s a natural feeling though. Some people are easily more frightened than others but then we all experience fear at some point or the other in our lives. So no one is really totally fear-free because deep down we all have something we are afraid of or afraid of losing. You are not alone, feel free to take pleasure in that.
Fear is one of the most basic human emotions. It is programmed into the nervous system and works like an instinct. From the time we’re infants, we are equipped with the survival instincts necessary to respond with fear when we sense danger or feel unsafe.
Well before learning how to deal, tackle and face our fears head-on, there are certain facts and secrets about fear that we need to understand
10 Must know secrets about fear
Fear influences reality
Back then when I was little, I had problems walking in the dark. When there’s a standing object around, probably a standing fan and cloth hung on it, it distorts the true reality and what I now see is a man standing all because of fear. This is where it becomes tricky. I often think that the imaginary person is there to cause harm.
That’s where the problem is, why must I think that I’m about to be harmed? why didn’t I think that the person is coming to do something good whatsoever to/for me? Guess what! The problem is not in the room but in the fear already present before entering the room. This example might be trivial but that’s how it works for big issues also. When you allow your fear to take control, it influences the true reality and then give you more reasons to be afraid.
Fear cannot be completely eliminated
Just like I illustrated earlier, we all have an atom of fear. So also we would always have something we are afraid of or afraid of losing no matter how fearless we seem to be because we are humans.
The truth still remains that fear cannot be completely eliminated. Nobody is fearless, just that some persons are too fearful. Don’t be too fearful to take action, rather your fear should only make you careful not restrain you.
Fear has an element of importance
How is it possible when we were taught to always be brave and not be scared of anything. also, we were taught to shun fear and face problems head-on…. how then is it necessary? Well, it can be the voice of reason, caution, and practicality that serves you well at times. So it is not a total enemy because sometimes fear enables us to consciously make some wise decisions.
Personally, I think fear is very necessary for life, yeah! it puts you to work if you really don’t want to see the worst happening. For example, if you are afraid of what your future will look like, that can trigger an uncommon zeal in you to avoid a bad future.
Fear can be inherited
Surprised? Well, don’t be. There is considerable evidence in humans, derived largely from studies of adopted children, and identical and fraternal twins reared together or apart, that a tendency toward anxiety and fear is a heritable trait.
So, fear can be passed down from parents to offspring without even realizing. However, Fear and anxiety are influenced by many genes; so there is actually no such thing as a simple “fear” gene that is inherited from one generation to the next.
Rather, The genes controlling neurotransmitters and their receptors are all present in several different forms in the general population. The particular combinations of these different forms that we receive from our parents will predispose us to respond with greater or lesser degrees of anxiety to events in our environment.
But the degree to which our lives are affected by this inherited predisposition will depend to a very large extent on our individual histories.
Fear can be learned
Fear is a universal survival mechanism
Phelps said in her talk. “Some of the most important things we can learn in life are what situations and events represent danger or threat. In humans, this type of information is often communicated through social interaction.”
Fear can be learned through direct experience with a threat, but it can also be learned via social means such as verbal warnings or observing others. Phelps’s research has shown that the expression of socially learned fears shares neural mechanisms with fears that have been acquired through direct experience.
Resisting fear strengthens it
Learn to embrace your fears sometimes without allowing it to get the best of you. Because the more you resist & deny your fear, the stronger it only becomes. Understanding and embracing your fear is actually one of the ways to tackle your fears.
The goal is not to get rid of fear, as you don’t have the power to make this happen. But you do have the power to change the way you relate to fear.
Fear makes us pessimists
There is a very interesting behaviour that people usually display when confronting a tough situation. Most people tend to look at the most negative possibilities when they are dealing with a new situation. We tend to look at all the worst-case scenarios, but rarely imagine the best-case scenarios.
Fear makes us think that something negative will happen when the future is indeed a misery. Become comfortable with not knowing what the future holds, so that fear won’t rule you.
Fear Limits You
With pessimism comes limitation – DollMchottney
This is where fear can be limiting. It’s almost impossible for you to pursue something if you think that the outcome will be negative.
Of course, fear can be a good thing like we’ve earlier mentioned, but it should not incapacitate your ability to think clearly. Fear triggers an interesting phenomenon in us. We start to see and imagine things that are most likely not going to happen.
Often times, we want to do something or achieve a certain goal but due to fear of failure, our zeal gets crumbled and we find ourselves being limited by our own fears. You haven’t even tried and you feeling what if I fail? shouldn’t I just manage/settle with what I already have? Now, that’s fear and that’s a limitation.
Fear can’t be avoided
Some times as a means to deal with our fears we try to avoid them. Well, you don’t exactly deal with something by trying to avoid it. So rather than trying to conquer fear in general, we’re going to be working on developing a healthier relationship with it which involves facing it head-on.
Fear can be dealt with
Deal with fear for what it is, do not amplify your fears, do not justify them, they are not yet real. Don’t give fear powers that it does not have naturally. Fear is an emotion; it is better we leave it that way.
So, don’t make the mistake of running from your fears, they are part of life. Life and fear exist together. It will never leave until dealt with.
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