How to find love: 10 strategic ways to find love
Hi guys. I couldn’t help but notice the quest for finding love especially in this 21st century where people are so crazy about couple goals. It does not only leave them disturbed about finding ‘the one’ but leaves them wondering where and how exactly they can find this love people who ‘seem‘ to be in perfect relationships share ( ‘seem’ because as we all know there are no perfect people nor relationships. Nowadays, what we often see are just perfect pictures. Do not be deceived).
There are no perfect relationships. There are only two imperfect people willing to accept their imperfections and work together towards perfection -DollyMchottney
So Today on love, dating and relationships, we would be looking at “How to Find true love“. Some people would probably see this topic and smirk wondering if a write up is going to find true love for them. Well, you would agree with me that it is exactly what makes the topic ‘How to find true love‘ very intriguing. How can you possibly find true love? Are there certain principles, protocols, or guidelines that you might be missing out? Or better still, let us tackle the real question here.
Do we find love or does love does find us?
People get so lost in search of love only to pass the love on the way and still not recognize it. You find yourself on a long unnecessary rigmarole, that you barely even realize when it eventually finds you. This desperation is often what gets people in the wrong relationships and eventually makes them get hurt in the end. Stop trying so hard, relax and give yourself all of the love that you seek.
You have got to understand that true love finds you on your journey to self-love and self-growth. Why don’t you love yourself, understand yourself, work on yourself, take good care yourself and focus on your overall growth while leaving your arms wide open in a bid to welcome love when it finally comes knocking on your door.
Of course, letting love find you do not in any way mean you should sit on your couch or sofa with your hands folded and legs crossed doing absolutely nothing and just waiting patiently for love to come home and knock on your door. (LOL, well if we are to be very practical, there are possibilities to these things if you know what I mean. You know, that pizza delivery guy who comes knocking on your door while you are on your couch with hands folded and legs crossed while watching TV could as well wind up being the love of your life but what do I know. (winks)
So, I guess I am not here to tell you this is how to find love but rather basic tips and nuggets that could help put you in a position for love to find you.
10 BASIC NUGGETS TO FINDING LOVE
Take out time to know you
Love finds you when you have found you -DollyMchottney
To find love, you have to first take out time to find yourself, know yourself and understand yourself. Understand your needs, your personality, your likes and dislikes, the things you can tolerate and things you cannot. Are you a great lover of attention? Are you the type who likes space and derives joy in having your alone time?
Know your love language. Knowing yourself enables you to draw the right energy and helps you in the long run when you finally get Into a relationship because you and your partner would be able to train each other properly
Dating is like taking a long course on your significant other -DollyMchottney
Be Yourself, love yourself
Now you know yourself, next is to love and be yourself. Authenticity is very important when it comes to finding real love. To find real love, you must first emphasize your true self. If you shift your personality, passions, or purpose to appease another person, you are not being your true self. People are attracted to authenticity.
You have your quirks and flaws, just as much as others do. Therefore, dating is about finding a person who will accept you wholeheartedly, just as much you can accept them. So If you want someone to love you through your moments of imperfection, you must also be willing to do that for someone else. Be real with yourself, so you are ready for someone else’s authenticity
Be a better version of yourself
I mentioned earlier on how love finds you on your journey to self-love and growth. Self-growth involves becoming the best version of yourself. Even after knowing yourself and loving yourself, you have to better yourself. Yes, we all have our flaws and imperfections but how well do we manage some of those terrible flaws? And we most likely have certain expectations we are looking for in others.
Most often than not, we do not even have some of those things we seek. Why don’t you then meet up with those expectations and things you are looking for. What kind of love do you seek? Are you well equipped and willing to give such love yourself and make the sacrifices it needs when you eventually find it? Be a better version of yourself and let love find you in good shape.
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Enjoy your own Company
Sometimes jumping from one relationship to another is not the best way to find that love you are looking for. At some point, it would be beneficial for you to take a break and have some time alone. Take out time to be by yourself and learn to enjoy it. It’s important after a divorce or any break-up after a long relationship to take some time to be alone.
Not just have some time alone but enjoy your alone time. You will be in better shape to meet the right person and find love if you have time to heal, reflect on yourself and past relationships and spend time alone to figure out who you are again.
Be Happy Single
Are you happy? Or Are you feeling melancholy, lonely and even depressed? How you feel within yourself reflects on your life as a whole. What aura are you sending to those you come across? Your aura is what often pulls people to yourself. Perhaps one of the most important secrets on this list is to be happy. Everyone wants to be around happy people. Happiness is magnetic.
So focus your energy on thinking about and doing the things that make you happy so that happiness can radiate from you. Maybe the biggest issue in not being able to find love is that you’re not feeling good about yourself. Like yourself and like your life. You have to be the person that you’d want to meet. The moment you work on this, then love would be able to find you.
If you’re not a happy, positive, self-confident person, you cut your chances of being in the right space for the right kind of person
Be Positive,Optimistic & Confident
The long search for love but to no avail have made some persons develop a negative mindset and mentality concerning love. Yes, breakups can be devastating, and if you’ve been hurt or betrayed by someone in the past, it can be quite challenging to press the restart button and open up to someone new. But to find true love, you have to develop a positive mindset and let yourself be vulnerable again, as it’s the only way for this deep and personal connection to take place.
Also, believe that true love still does exist and you would find it because you are worthy of it. Confidence and self-esteem play a vital role when it comes to finding love. However, many people are unable to find love because they don’t think they’re worthy of having it. If you’re someone who struggles with low self-esteem and intense feelings of self-doubt, it’s time to recognize that this lack of confidence is affecting your behaviour and keeping others at bay.
Being Optimistic means you believe at any cost that you’re going to find that love because it is meant for you and so it will come to you when the time is right. You just have to believe that true love is out there for you.
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Stop picking people who are unavailable and wrong for you
If you were to look back at your dating history, how would you characterize the people you’ve been with? People claim to be looking for love but keep entering into a relationship with all of the wrong people. Make yourself understand that holding on to somebody who isn’t interested or isn’t there for you is harmful, and move on else you just keep moving in circles.
In many cases, the reason you haven’t found love yet is that you’re choosing to be with people who can’t give you what you need and deserve. For instance, you may find yourself drawn to men who don’t want to be tied down or to women who are only interested in a fling or friends with benefits. And rather than being able to enjoy a deep, meaningful, and committed relationship with someone, you’re selecting to be with people who aren’t looking to be with someone for the long-term.
If finding love is truly a priority for you, then you should talk to your partner sooner rather than later about what you both want out of a relationship. That way, you can choose to be with someone who wants the same things you do and increases your chances of falling in love.
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Travel and meet new people
Just like I mentioned earlier, the chances of love coming to meet you at the comfort of your home is very slim. Sometimes you might just have to change your routine and leave your comfort zone. Travel, put yourself out there and meet new people. Explore, Make new friends and make efforts to be open. If you desire to meet someone new, then you must be willing to connect and open up with the people around you. If someone next to you at the bus stop strikes up a conversation, be willing to engage. Even if that person is not going to be the love of your life. You do not have to be too uptight.
Try to get involved in things you enjoy doing that would also help in your development. Join social groups or meet-ups; be a worker bee in a cause you believe in; get involved in a catering school, dance school, programming etc whatever it is that you want to do. Just get occupied and do not make your life all about the quest for love. At the very least, you would be doing something you like and at the very best, you’ll meet somebody like-minded in the process because you would probably be in the right space.
Finally, Be welcoming. I have pretty much talked about leaving your comfort zone and going out to interact with people, as well as getting involved to meet people of like minds and all. Well, to crown all of these efforts, you must be welcoming.
Welcoming has to do with having the right attitude to receive love when it finds you. Welcoming involves being a little more friendly and jovial if you aren’t. Create the right environment. Be of good attitude and demeanour. Healthy, loving people attract other healthy, loving people and create loving, healthy relationships. When you are welcoming and people feel comfortable around you, you increase your chances of finding love.
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So, guys, these are the 10 important nuggets to keep in mind during your quest for love. And always bear in mind that you could find love in the strangest places you never thought it could be.
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I hope the love you are searching for finds you wherever you are.
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