In case you don’t know yet, let me bring it to your knowledge. Courtesy is a virtue that elicits approachability. In other words, you tend to be approachable and accessible when you have courtesy.
This is not to say that it’s the only thing that makes you approachable. However, it is one of the major factors that makes you approachable.
I don’t usually go out that much, but when I do go out, I tend to be attentive to how people behave and act. By just speaking a few words with someone for the first time, I will know if such a person is approachable or not by the way he/she displays courtesy.
Most people are not even aware of how they act towards other people. They do often wonder why they seem to repel people. But they fail to understand that their behaviours can make someone not even come close to you, not to talk of speak with you.
They complain that they can’t seem to get the attention of people, and in their minds, they think the people are the problem. Little do they know that they’re their own problems.
They often fail to show even the teeniest bit of nicety to others, yet they complain about not getting people to do what they want. Why will you expect people to do what you want when you’re not even nice to them?
That cruel behaviour of yours will always make people resent you. If you want to change that, then be nice to people. It’s not so difficult to be nice. Why is so difficult for most people to do.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE APPROACHABLE?
Now, you know that courtesy makes you approachable, and I believe you agreed to that. But do you really know what it means to be approachable? Do you truly know how being approachable is?
I know you would want to say it means people being able to access you, right? Well, that’s true. But there’s more to that.
Have you ever heard someone say something like, “though I’ve not spoken to him, I just know he’s not approachable.” I’m guessing you’ve! Doesn’t it bother you to think that you would just feel this hunch in your instinct that a particular person is not approachable just because of the way they look or walk or act, even if you haven’t even spoken a word to them yet?
Now, this hunch might be right or wrong. But what does this tells you? It simply means that even without speaking to or getting to know you, people are already drawing conclusions as to your degree of approachability.
In other words, your countenance tells a lot about you and your personality. This kind of aura you create tells people how you’re to act towards them. And this is what approachability is all about.
You might know how to speak nice and all, but do you look like so? Do your facial expressions tell that about you?
As it is, one way to know if a person is quite approachable is by his facial expression. If the person seems to be grumpy looking, you wouldn’t want to go close to such a person.
However, if the person is all smiling, you’ll be drawn to the person. Albeit, this is not always as it seems. Because they are some people who seem to be grumpy, but they are approachable. While those who put up a smile will be the vicious ones.
In the end, it all boils down to your personality and how you address People.
Don’t be such a person that just snaps at people for no just cause or probably for little things they did that pissed you off.
You can also become more approachable by speaking to others first and not waiting for them to come to you. Even when you are aware that they need you, you can approach them if they feel they can’t approach you. You would be surprised as to how happy and grateful they would be for just that little thing you did, even though you haven’t helped them yet.
SO WHAT THEN MAKES A COURTEOUS PERSON APPROACHABLE?
Something exist within a courteous person that makes them quite approachable and one of it is their humility. Their humility to want to help others without thinking of what they would get in return.
Outside this, some other characteristic attribute that exist in courtesy which makes a Person approachable are;
- The attribute of wanting to listen to others and understand their perspective of things.
- Keeping a smiling and happy face at all times, even with so much tension and anxiety around.
- Willingness to answer any form of question that is asked.
- Putting other people’s interest before yours.
- Rendering helping hands where necessary.
This is just few out of the pole of attribute that exist for approachability of an a courteous individual.
Mind you, this is not to say that all people that are approachable have courtesy, however all people that have courtesy are approachable.
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