Everyone has their insecurity of different magnitude, even the most confident folks inclusive.
These insecurities can sometimes be hard to pinpoint and work through, but in maintaining a healthy, happy life, it is crucial to figure out how to manage your insecurities.
Leaving it unchecked/unresolved can have a serious impact on many aspects of your life, including your love life.
“When thoughts become action, that is where it starts to break down”
It’s completely natural to be somewhat insecure or a little jealous, even paranoid. It’s okay to think and it doesn’t have to guide your decision.
What’s wrong is allowing your insecurities to make you conceive negative thoughts which results in negative actions.
Your relationship and your partner become victims of your unchecked insecurities.
That’s why recognizing the signs that your insecurities are causing problems in your life/love life is very essential.
Ahead are six signs you shouldn’t overlook to help see the side effects of your insecurities on your relationship.
SIGNS OF INSECURITY IN A RELATIONSHIP
1. TRUST ISSUES:
Not fully trusting your partner results in difficulty in opening up emotionally.
Lack of trust in a relationship is like the birthplace of insecurity in a relationship, cause trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
You doubt every little thing, you stalk social media sites, checking for private messages and phone contacts. You snoop on your partner and feel threatened easily.
If you can’t trust, you can’t bring your heart to love and understand, you rather search endlessly for things that might not be there.
You end up losing peace of mind, your relationship starts wearing out.
2. STRUGGLE WITH INTIMACY:
“Your inability or resistance to open up can hurt your relationship because it kind of puts a limit on the amount of emotional intimacy you are going to share”
The most beautiful part of being in a relationship is the feeling of this intimate emotional closeness.
But if your insecurities are causing you to keep your partner at a distance, it can affect your relationship negatively.
You feel your guard up during intimate moments, you find it hard communicating with your partner.
Your partners read varieties of facial expressions that they can’t help you with.
This could be the fear of losing your mate. This level of insecurity makes you feel you are not worth someone’s time.
You find yourself obsessing over whether your partner likes you, is attracted to you, finds you annoying, enjoys intimacy with you, or wants to leave you for someone else.
Sometimes you want to compare yourself with your partner’s ex, you have them reassure you over and over.
“Your fear is the gateway to the dark side”
Your insecurity heightens by their slightest lack of interest or opposition. Thus avoid honest communication and confrontations.
4. TAKE THINGS TOO PERSONAL:
When you take things too personally, you are projecting your doubts and insecurities on your relationship.
You expect your partner to dislike what you don’t like about yourself, to doubt your ability to do things that intimidate you, to reject what you reject in yourself.
You start assuming the odds, thinking the worst things. Reading meaning to everything they do all the time and it’s always about you.
Instead of enjoying your time, you focus on proving the feelings of your partner.
5. SELF ACCEPTANCE:
“If you don’t keep your insecurities checked you may be too dependent on your partner”
Self-acceptance doesn’t just happen overnight, but relying solely on your partner to make you feel you are enough, attractive enough, smart enough, kind enough, fun enough, good enough, etc, is never going to make you happy with yourself and in your relationship.
You don’t feel adequate so you look to your partner to redefine this for you.
You need them to weigh your strength and weakness, your talent, capabilities, worth, and feeling of satisfaction.
“The worst loneliness is not to be satisfied with yourself”
Always remember that everyone has their insecurities, what breaks a relationship is how you handle it. Relating these signs is a great step to working through your insecurities.