HOW TO START A CONVERSATION WITH A GIRL
Have you ever been in a situation where you are unable to start up a conversation with one of the opposite gender whom you like? I’m talking to the guys now, forgive me ladies but the tension is more on the guys than girls and we all know it. Yes, the pressure!!
Society is couched in a way that there exists an invisible pressure on the side of the guy to always initiate the first conversation with a girl. You see a girl, you like that girl; congratulations.
Now you got to move to the next step, which would be starting up a conversation with her, and for most guys, this becomes an issue.
For some guys it’s effortless. I have seen guys who have no qualms whatsoever to stop a girl in the middle of the road and start up a conversation with her, collect her contact and by the end of the week they are already hanging out.
These guys we refer to as the ‘Master Tackers‘. However, there exist an enormous class of guys who are shy and unable to start up a conversation with a girl, even when there is a platform (most guys are unable to start up a conversation with a girl because they feel there is nothing that necessitates such interaction) to engage the lady.
In other words, there is no common ground between them. I for one, as a lady most prefer it when there happens to be a common ground of some sort. I believe many would agree with me.
What’s worse is that if by all the luck on planet earth, they get the girl’s number, starting a conversation with her could still prove hard.
For whatever factors that these guys are unable to start up a conversation with a girl, I am glad to announce it ends now.
The reason being that we are about to examine salient tips on how to start up a conversation with a girl and subsequently maintain the pure vibes. So, focus!!
CRUCIAL TIPS ON HOW TO START A CONVERSATION WITH A GIRL
Please Compliment her
One of the ways to start up a conversation with a girl is by complimenting her. However, be mindful of how you get this compliment across to her.
Try not to sound like those guys on the streets that would say anything to get a girls attention. Don’t compliment in such a way that makes it look like you are just attention begged. Preferably, dish it out in a plain, mature and presentable manner.
Most girls basically like to be reassured that they are beautiful or the clothes or shoe they made up their mind to wear today actually fits them perfectly. So, you see a girl you like, walk up to her and compliment her.
For instance, you could say; “wow, I love your dress. It suits you perfectly” or “I love your shoes. You in them gives a killer look.” Or “Those are some really nice shoes you got on miss”
This way you can get her attention, and have a follow-up conversation. However, as I have mentioned – don’t overdo this.
How so? If you compliment her too much, you would sound and look like a creep. And if she sees you like one, then be rest assured that’s the end to something that never begun.
You Can Greet Her
Imagine walking up to a girl or as you both are walking down a mutual path, and you measure up to her, and you say “good morning ma” or “good morning miss” most preferably (as “ma” might sound way too formal or worse, make her feel old).
Nonetheless, it all depends on the setting & moment. Considering ‘ma‘ could also make you come off as being sarcastically hilarious especially if you obviously look older.
You can see her reaction in your head, right? She would be taken aback by surprise. One way of starting a conversation with a girl is by greeting her. Not just anyhow though. Do it with a smile and maintain eye contact.
This would get her attention, and a killer smile might even cause her heart to flutter. In addition, after greeting her, take note of her response to determine your next line of action. If she replies dully, retreat.
Tell her who you are
Always introduce yourself to a girl while starting up a conversation with her. Tell her about yourself, but keep it short and interesting, that way she will know this guy is interesting to talk with and subsequently to hang out with.
Try to make an impression with merely your introduction. Mind you; Not just an impression but a good impression. Don’t talk about yourself too much, that would just be a big turn off.
Refer to a common connection (Initiating the platform)
Initiating a platform is very important and what do I mean? In starting a conversation with a girl, it would be helpful to step back and analyze the environment and circumstances of your meeting to find a common denominator from which you can develop an interesting conversation.
For instance, It could be that you guys are at a party; ask her how’s she is enjoying the party or about a mutual friend. Listen attentively while she speaks.
Use a pick-up line
I am pretty sure you are already laughing and probably saying how the hell is that going to aid me? But believe me, pick up lines though they are corny works in starting a conversation with a girl, especially when delivered with perfection.
You could say: “Hey I looked up to the sky and wondered where all the stars went. Then I saw you; the answer to my wonder.”
I know right. It’s corny. But when you deliver it with a twinkle and amusement in your eyes and a smirk or smug grin, it hits perfectly in serving as an ice breaker while starting up a conversation with a girl.
However, as I mentioned earlier, reading the environment is very important. Read the environment and know if a pick-up line would fit in because it might not always. Worst of all, it could make you look like a playboy.
Tips for starting up a conversation with a girl via text or social media
Starting up a conversation with a girl involves an introduction. Infact, the moment you send her an initial greeting message the first day of chatting her up, a proper introduction should follow up next.
Trust me, it’s quite annoying if we have to beg you to do the needful. It’s quite infuriating when guys start chatting without an introduction and expect the girl to give a bona fide audience. C’mon, niggur she doesn’t know you.
Send A Sweet Text
While you might argue that this is insane and doesn’t work which I disagree with you to a large extent, research has shown that this actually works.
Send her a text, any time of the day couching the message to be sweet and touchy. Don’t go all: “From the first day I saw you. …. You rock my world.” Hell to the no.
Send a message that is reassuring her of having either a blissful day or a blissful night. You can say: “Hey I know you probably are stressed now but don’t worry you would soon be home to relax and chill. So keep smiling, ’cause I believe that your smile can shake all obstacles.” As sleek as this and you are good to go.
Enquire About her day
Don’t just ask her how her day was. Ensure you inquire how her day actually went. The stress, the fun, the challenges. All of the gist.
Make sure she shares the details with you, while you try listening attentively as well as chip in necessary contributions to fuel the conversation.
Rather than just listening and making her whole gist sound like a boring seminar with your poor response or irksome silence.
Ask her questions pertaining to her interest
One way of starting a conversation smoothly with a girl is by making the chat centre around her. Ask her questions relating to her interest, likes and dislikes. Indicate where you share such similar interests and engage her, further along, that line. That serves as a major icebreaker.
Reply her posts
Another easy way in starting up a conversation with a girl is by replying to her posts. This happens to be one of the most common ways these days.
Don’t send “lol” or some one-worded response. Let the reply be interesting and genuine. Most especially, let it be engaging.
Ask for recommendation
You could get her recommendation on movies, books or music. Trust me, this is the major icebreaker as the conversation that would follow after your question will be interesting and substantial.
These are just some of the numerous ways of starting up a conversation with a girl. Put them into place now. In fact, look around for some chick you like and approach her now. Deliver these tips with finesse and let’s celebrate your successful conversation with her.
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