We all at some point in our life assert to the fact that imperfection is common among us humans.
It is so difficult to prepare your heart to accept imperfect results. Yet, it is really challenging to find a perfect outcome out of circumstances and situations in life.
Haven’t you wondered! yes I know no man is flawless still I can’t accept deficiency from people. like what else was I expecting, when I already know imperfections is all that men are perfect about.
What you must know: To deal with imperfections, one must make deliberate, voluntary, forethought and wilful effort towards the struggle.
WHAT IS IMPERFECTION?
Imperfections speak of shortcomings, deficiency, incompleteness and even weakness. There are so many words to use in place of the word. But, I like to see it as a distortion from perfection.
What so many persons do not know about imperfections, “where there is imperfection there is an eye-opener to what is perfect”.
Don’t be surprised to know that there is no place, or circumstance, or person called perfect.
Perfection is not a destination it’s a journey.
There isn’t a perfect version of anything.
As a matter of fact, people best relate to imperfection than perfection. That is because we humans already know that we ain’t perfect at all.
You can only find perfection in imperfections. As I said, it must be deliberate.
PERFECTION IS BORING!!!
Those little flaws are sometimes what makes some image standout. In music, dissonance from a chord is what gives it that attractive feeling.
Flaws can be attractive!
We usually make the mistake of procrastinating due to our hunger for perfection.
Fun Fact: “perfectionists are great procrastinators”.
Embracing perfection is the key to dealing with imperfection. Those shortcomings and distortion are what makes us human.
You may be having an issue with accepting shortcomings, we will try and help you deal with that using this 4 approach. Still, they all revolve around accepting or embracing imperfections.
4 KEY WAYS TO LIVING WITH IMPERFECTION
The truth is imperfections have come to stay, you have to embrace it while trying to get good results out of life.
1. Make Peace with Imperfection:
We have understood already that perfection does not exist. You only have goals in your mind and when you don’t achieve them. You think of yourself as imperfect.
Come to think of it. Imagine if that imperfect state of yours presently was initially your goal? Does that make it perfect?
Of course not!
We really need to strive to be at peace with imperfections. It is good to have goals, not just goals but challenging ones. But when it does not happen, be at peace.
Your present state can be the goal of somebody else.
Don’t beat yourself over what you could not achieve, rather ponder on what you can learn from it.
One danger of achieving your goal. Is that you may forget to make further improvement. And that is what imperfections reveal. Its shows you that there is room for more development.
2. Accept it as natural in yourself, others and systems (govt etc):
Imperfections make us human. We can’t control everything. You need to accept imperfections in yourself. Not just yourself, but in others.
One secret to friendship is not being a perfectionist. People can only relate with imperfections. When you present perfection to them. They shy away for 2 reasons.
- Either, they can’t believe that you are perfect. Which suggest to them that you are faking your life, or
- They think that you are too good for them.
Here is the idea. Don’t freak out over little imperfections from people. I know some guys who are good at that. Trust me you do not want to drive people away from yourself.
3. Quit setting impossible standards
Yes, as awesome as it is to set high standards for one’s self because it helps one aim high and works harder. It’s also not advisable to set the bars so high that it begins to hit impossible standards.
What I simply mean by this is do not set impossible standards for yourself. And there’s just one word that covers these impossible standards and that word simply is “perfection”
It’s better to come in terms with the fact that the person you looking at and thinking is perfect, is not actually perfect & never will no matter how perfect they might seem. Same goes to you as well, you aren’t perfect and never will because you are human and so are they.
When you realize this you would be able to handle your flaws, failures as well as imperfections much better and would finally be able to understand that you can’t meet up with impossible standards. So, there’s no need to fight yourself over every little imperfection but rather work better each day in order to aim at becoming a better you rather than a perfect you. Don’t set impossible standards for yourself
Mind you: Perfection is just a mirage created from expectation
4. Elimination of the need for perfection allows you to discover perfection in life itself
So after quitting impossible standards, total elimination of the need for perfection follows.
We are most times way too driven to find the perfection that we often seem blind to realize how perfect we could be still, even with our imperfections which obviously makes us humans as I’ve earlier mentioned.
Sometimes, you just have to completely kill the desire for perfection, in other to really see perfections in life.
Yeah! It is good because you call it good.
But on the other hand, somebody else can say it’s bad.
Take the perfectionist for example who happen to be great procrastinators because they seek perfection in all they do and until something is perfect the way they want and everything is just in place, they do not exactly find it worthy.
I can testify to this because I happen to be one but I had to break out because I realized as much as perfection seems like the best thing, it obviously has its own side effect which is procrastinating and we all know what procrastination does.
Recommended: DANGERS OF PROCRASTINATION
At the end of the day, we fail to try out new things and miss out on a whole lot all in the search for perfection. When we can obviously go into things even while imperfect and learn as well as get better in the process which is actually the real perfection.
AGAIN, Perfection is not a destination but a journey
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