WRONG DEFINITIONS OF LOVE BY MANY LADIES
One thing every human being craves so much is love. Everyone wants to be loved and cared for that is why many people seek out relationships most times because they feel that it is deeper and they could get more love and affection in a relationship. When you ask some ladies to tell you how sure they are that their boyfriends/fiances truly love them, these are the things many of them use as measuring rods for love from their dating partners and these are the wrong definitions of love
Some ladies think, that once they have a spare key to the room of their boyfriends, it means the guys are crazy in love with them meanwhile a guy can spread his spare keys among many ladies.
You have his spare key with you but you must notify him before coming to his house, what do you think? I know a guy who gave his girlfriend a spare key and she never met any other lady in his apartment and she does not need to call him before coming, yet this guy was double dating.
It was later discovered he won’t bring the other lady to his house. They always meet at his friend’s house for sex and all that. It was when it was discovered that he impregnated the lady that has no spare key to his house that the one with the spare key went to throw his key into the sea.
A spare key might not spare you from experiencing heartbreak from a guy that does not love you.
Ladies generally are words freak. Soft words can soften the heart of many ladies and make them cringe in excitement over a guy. Many guys are good at using words to deceive many ladies into thinking they love them. Don’t be carried away when your guy starts using his oratory prowess and power to sweep you off your feet. Love is a verb (action), not just a verbal expression.
Many ladies think that great sex is equal to great love. So many ladies think the more they give sex, the more the guy enjoys it, and the more he will love them. A guy can be having s£x with you 24/7, yet his heart is far from you, only his body is with you.
Never think you can use your body to buy love because that’s the only currency many ladies use today to purchase love. Apart from your body, what do you have to offer in a relationship?
Different styles of s£x you do with a guy can not guarantee his love for you. Some of you are reading this, there was no s£x style you did not practice with your ex, yet, the two of you are no more together. If s£x guarantees love, maybe that guy should still be with you. Any guy asking you to prove your love for him through s£x is simply in lust with you, not in love.
Some guys have a tender face. Soft face and they can smile or laugh for the whole world. My sister, the real person is not on the face. Some have a soft face but a hard heart, hard character, hard mentality, etc. If you think he loves you because he smiles easily and his face looks cool and soft, then you are wrong. A guy with a soft face can make life hard for you if the soft face is what you call love.
SOCIAL MEDIA DISPLAY OF LOVE
Yes, I love social media displays of love. I do it a lot. It strengthens the love and makes the relationship a role model for others. Yet, it is not proof of love. The fact that the guy posts your pictures on all social media does not mean he truly loves you. The fact that he uses you as his DP, profile picture, and screen saver, does not mean you are safe in his hand.
I know a guy that paid a 1.5million to secure a big space on a big billboard on the road his girlfriend passes in the morning on her way to work and she will pass the same road while coming in the evening.
This guy wrote on the two sides of the mighty and giant billboard for everyone to see and particularly for the lady to see ‘Rosemary ( The lady’s surname), I love you. ‘ and many other beautiful words were written on the billboard with the picture of this lady, yet, at the end of everything, this guy still ended up bathing this lady with acid on her hands and legs.
Love is good when he displays it for you on social media platforms, but still, check to be sure it is real love. Take that love to the laboratory and test it!!!
SIGNS THAT A MAN TRULY LOVES YOU
Does he give a damn about me? This is one of the most important questions a woman will ask in a relationship, and not knowing the answer may confuse her.
HE PAYS ATTENTION TO YOU
A man who genuinely cares for you will not regard you as a second-class citizen. He values your thoughts and feelings and is always willing to talk about any differences you may have. He will seek your counsel before making a decision that will have an impact on you.
WILLING TO MAKE SACRIFICES
He isn’t in love with you if he doesn’t make sacrifices for you. A man who truly loves you would go to great lengths to protect you.
CARVES OUT TIME FOR YOU WHEN YOU ARE IN NEED
A man who truly cares about you will prioritize spending time with you and investing in their relationship. This isn’t to say he won’t work hard to succeed in his career or other interests, but despite his busy schedule, he always makes time for you.
HE DESPISES SEEING YOU SAD OR DEPRESSED
A man who genuinely cares about you will not want to see you in a bad mood. He’ll be there to cheer you up and tell you how valuable you are when you’re depressed.
PAYS ATTENTION TO YOUR APPEARANCE EVEN IF YOU ARE HAVING A BAD DAY
A man in love will find you appealing even if you don’t always look your best. He believes you’re wonderful even when you’re a complete disaster.
HE WILL GUARD YOU
A man who is truly committed to you would go to tremendous measures to ensure your safety. When you love someone, you want to defend them in whatever way you can. He will want to defend your reputation if he truly loves you.
HE MOTIVATES YOU TO ACHIEVE YOUR OBJECTIVES
If he truly loves you, he will want to see you succeed in everything you do. He’ll be your biggest supporter and cheerleader.
HE SHOWS RESPECT TO YOUR FAMILY & FRIENDS
A man who is truly in love with you would show respect for your family and friends. While he may not get along with everyone in your family or circle of friends, he will make an effort to form close bonds with them because he cares about you.
HE IS NOT AFRAID TO DECLARE HIS LOVE FOR YOU TO THE ENTIRE WORD
If he truly loves you, he won’t be shy about expressing his appreciation in front of others. In public, he’ll hold your hand, enthusiastically embrace you, and be thrilled to display his love for you.
HE WILL GO OUT OF HIS WAY TO SHOW HIS COMMITMENT TO YOU AT ALL TIMES
A man who truly cares about you will want you to know how committed he is to you. He’ll never stop telling you how much he cares about you. Even if things get difficult, he will not go. He won’t draw parallels between you and other women. A man who truly loves you will think of you as the most beautiful lady on the planet and won’t compare you to other women. You’ll never feel the urge to hide behind a mask with him.