20 TIPS FOR A HAPPY AND SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP
What are the tips for a happy and successful relationship? Laughter? Financial stability? Friendship Communication?
All the above questions seem to be highly paramount for a happy and successful relationship but researchers have been studying couples for the last two decades and the discourse from the research is clear: If you want to have a stable and healthy relationship, exercise kindness early and always.
Kindness means you’re being friendly, generous, and considerate. Some studies show the more someone receives or witnesses kindness, the more they are kind themselves, which leads to upward spirals of love and generosity in a relationship.
Sometimes, being kind is hard. When you’re angry or upset, kindness is not at the top of your list, but acting in this way always is the key to a happy and successful relationship.
It’s important to know that being kind is not a big deal once in a while. Kindness is found in the little details, and when it’s been practiced daily, your relationship will flourish and prosper.
This kindness can be expressed in various ways. Here are few kind gestures you should imbibe if you want a happy and successful relationship.
Always Give your total attention when your spouse speaks
It is not a good thing when you constantly have divided attention when your partner is having a conversation with you. Sacrifice your absolute attention when your partner is talking to you.
Call your partner romantic names
Most people call your partner his/her real name. Calling him the same name probably doesn’t make you different. Learn to spice up your relationship by calling your partner the best of romantic names. In the articles below, we put together a lot of romantic names that will blow your mind, and trust me, your partner will love these names.
Always ask if your partner needs anything when you’re at the store
A simple gesture such as asking your partner if they need anything when you are at the store shows that you care about them and you are concerned about their needs. They would be very appreciative of this act.
Never put your companion down
If you have ever been in a relationship with someone who keeps talking you down, you would agree with me that it can be frustrating and tiring putting up with such a person. Not only is it frustrating but it also tarnishes one’s self-esteem and no one deserves that. You should not let anyone tamper with your self-esteem or self-worth. If your partner keeps doing this, be rest assured you can never attain a successful relationship. Ask yourself; for how long can you keep up with it? In as much as you wouldn’t like it, make sure you aren’t the one doing it. Be your partner’s biggest fan and hypeman/woman.
Always try to Pick up his/her precious flowers, sweet or take-out
This might seem like it’s not a big deal but it would shock you to know gestures like these are often what lingers on in the heart of our lovers. More often than not, it’s just “the little things”. Take time to study your partner and know what he/she likes. Be spontaneous and surprise them on the days they least expect. Even if there are underlying issues and you guys probably fell out before you left for work, a gesture like this can easily help water the ground.
Always Respect your partner’s view of the world
Respect is very important in every relationship, be it blood tiles, friendship, etc. Many of us can be very opinionated in a relationship which sometimes makes us pay deaf ears to any other opinion that’s contrary to ours. You might not realize it but this could feel disrespectful in the sight of others. It’s okay to have your own opinions and view of the world but do not be deadwood who do not understand the idea of different perspectives. Your mentality and idea are not necessarily always the best. Be flexible and open to listen and understand where your partner could be looking at the world from. It is 100% possible to get your opinion across while not disregarding the opinion of your partner.
Always Laugh together as much as possible
Just like the popular saying goes “laughter is the best medicine”. This sure applies to your relationship as well. Laughing together is the best medicine for a happy and successful relationship. Learn to laugh together as much as possible, as this would go a long way in strengthening your bond.
Always Make breakfast during the weekend
For the man, you can choose to allow your woman to rest while you take charge of the kitchen during the weekend when you can. For the lady, you can intentionally decide to make your man’s favorite dish or even breakfast in bed. Little acts of love like this would definitely put a smile on your partner’s face.
Always Think before you speak, it is very important
Our words go a long way in affecting someone else, and once said, it can’t be taken back. For this reason, one needs to always think before speaking. Be careful with the kind of words you use on your partner. Avoid using abusive words. Do not always be in a haste to speak when you are upset. Always think first so your anger doesn’t get the better of you.
Always Smile when your partner walks through the door
There’s no sweeter feeling than knowing someone’s face gets elated every time they see you. That’s the feeling you are going to be giving them every time you smile when you see them. It shows you are always happy to see them. So learn to always put up a lovely smile each time your partner walks through the door.
Keep on encouraging your partner through his/her hard days
Can you be your partners’ safe space and strength during difficult times? It can be really sad being in a relationship where you can’t even count on your partner for encouragement and helping you lift your spirit when you are down. What’s the use of having a partner if you run to another for encouragement and not your supposed partner. Learn to be your partners’ strength when they need it as this would strengthen your bond.
Always appreciate your spouse for their good days
Expression of Gratitude generally makes people want to do more for you, likewise in relationships. When your partner feels how grateful and appreciative you are of what they have done for you, they would be moved to do more. Appreciating them on random days even when they haven’t done anything would help better the relationship between you and your partner.
Always Apologize when you’re at fault
It wouldn’t take anything from you to say “I’m sorry” when you have offended your partner or when you are wrong. Do not act like everything is okay and expect things to just move ahead without an apology. It is not enough to just apologize, but learn to apologize properly when you are at fault. Admit your fault and be very clear as to what you are apologizing for. Because some people just apologize all in the name of “I’ve apologized”, they don’t even know what they are apologizing for. Personally, I find this really upsetting and your partner could too.
Do not go to bed angry
If you really want to achieve your goal of having a happy and successful relationship then make sure every issue gets tackled before the following day. Avoid going to bed mad at each other all the time. It makes way for resentment to grow in your relationship.
Make your limited time, quality time
Quality time happens to be one of the important five love languages. The importance of quality time in a relationship cannot be overemphasized. Always make sure you spend some quality time with your partner. If you are in a long-distance relationship, make sure the little time you guys spend together is definitely worth it. Go out to see a movie, play games, take her out for a romantic dinner, take pictures together, etc. Do something you both like and enjoy each other’s company.
Always drop kind letters around the house
Imagine the smile on your partner’s face when she wakes up to cute sweet notes around the house. As little as this gesture may seem, trust me when I say your partner is going to love it. It’s romantic and would add spice to your relationship.
Give your partner his/her privacy
In as much as spending time together is very important, no one is saying you have to be in your partners’ skin 24/7. Learn to give them some reasonable space and privacy but know how much space is reasonable, so you don’t end up giving too much space and eventually losing them.
Be careful of how you handle emotions
Many of us do not know how to properly handle the emotions of our partners. This can make you eventually lose them if you aren’t careful. Never disregard your partner’s emotions. Make them understand that their emotions are valid and it’s okay for them to feel the way they are feeling.
Pick up chores around the house when your partner can’t
There’s no harm in picking up chores around the house when your partner isn’t able to. Chores like sweeping, washing, cooking, gardening. Helping out with these rather than leaving it all to your partner every time would make them happy and grateful.
Always Compliment and accept your partner
How much do you compliment your partner? Not well enough I suppose. Make it a habit to always compliment your partner and accept your partner alongside their flaws and imperfection. Knowing some little flaws of your partner that no one else knows is part of the beauty of a relationship that many do not realize. Accept your partner and do not make them feel bad about themselves.
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