How to get her to open up about her sexual desires: 5 Keyways to improve your sexual life with her
Sex is an act that is meant to be enjoyed by both men and women. But oftentimes, knowing how to please your woman can prove difficult.
This problem is usually attributed to the fact that some men are actually clueless about how the female body and mind works.
Knowing the most sexually sensitive parts of her body and how she likes it would go a long way in turning this stone around.
Women differ and what pleases one might not necessarily please another. Hence, getting to know and study your partner also goes a really long way in helping you please them.
More so, most women love spontaneity. When you just act or get it right without always being told.
Nevertheless, a situation where your partner is very vocal in freely expressing what they want and how they want or like it easily creates a pointer for you as to what you should often focus on or the best way(s) to go about it.
Unfortunately, not all women are vocal about their sexual fantasies or desires as some fear being looked at in an unpleasant light but there are few ways that could help get her to be open about these things.
5 ways to make a woman open up about her sexual desires
The first basic step into making any woman get sexually vocal or intimate with you is to carefully study her first.
You have to study her to know the kind of person she is in order to know how to handle her because a dog and a monkey cannot be handled the same way even though they’re both animals.
Also, studying her would help you know how to make her comfortable with you in the best possible way. This can be seen as the foundation or building block.
Make her Comfortable
The second step in making any woman get sexually vocal and intimate with you is to make her feel very comfortable around you.
It’s no news that a woman’s true self surfaces the moment she begins to get comfortable or has become really comfortable with you.
Getting her to get comfortable with you goes a long way in structuring how you act generally, sound and talk.
If you come across to her as a judgemental, overly serious and imperious type, how do you expect her to be totally comfortable in expressing herself to you?
It happens some people are generally blessed with a certain personality type that gets people to be easily comfortable with them while some others are not. Hence, extra effort in making sure one gets comfy around them.
Present yourself as open and trustworthy
Just like I indirectly highlighted above, how you come across to her would determine how comfortable she would get around you.
So how do you present yourself? As a loudmouth who she can’t trust to not go and discuss her conversation with the guys?
This is where trustworthiness comes in especially if you both are just getting to know each other. Don’t expect her to open up to you when she doesn’t trust you.
How else do you present yourself? As one who is close to ideas and not willing to learn? Or as a ‘know it all‘ who doesn’t want to be taught what to do?
There are quite a number of men out there who find it unpleasant to be told what to do or how to please their woman sexually.
Often times pride could make them feel they are doing a great job and never care to ask their partner what else they might be into that could be lacking in their sex life.
Learn to present yourself as open. By open what do I mean? It’s simple. Present yourself as open to new or even old ideas you might have forgotten.
Be open enough to try out things. Be open enough to be really curious and more interested in what pleases her than what pleases you.
After all, good sex life is often evident in relationships where both partners are more aroused in how pleased they get their partners.
Good Communication remains the key when it comes to sex and relationships. Learn to communicate with your partner.
But one key factor to this communication on sexual desires especially as regards relationship context is ‘interest‘.
By relationship context I mean someone you are already dating and not someone you are still trying to woo or getting to know.
This relationship context is seriously highlighted here because often times communication can seem easy at the beginning.
This is because the butterflies in your stomach are very much alive in this stage and your interest is definitely aroused.
It’s the talking stage where you want to know their likes and dislikes etc. Also, depending on how fast things move(like it does these days), the sex talks can come up faster than one would imagine.
But let’s talk after a few months or years of knowing this person. That keen interest in most guys subsides greatly.
Many would feel they have known you already, forgetting we evolve daily and getting updated is surely the best way to go.
And with most women, if they feel you are not interested in knowing, they wouldn’t see the need to bring it to your doorstep.
Hence, the need or better put, the role your ‘interest‘ plays in terms of communication. Women love men who are curious about them.
Also, communicating your sexual wants and needs, most especially the things she does that you love can also make her open up to you about what she loves as well.
This communication can also be done while the act of sex is happening. Moreover, having it at this moment would most likely come off as more natural
And while you both are in the bedroom, there’s a lot to be said for nonverbal communication.
I am sure when she is comfortable and ready to communicate she wouldn’t be afraid to guide you in one direction or another during sex.
Nonverbal communication is one of the ways women(and even men) show their partners what they like without harsh wording that can feel like an insult at the moment.
So pay attention to both verbal and non-verbal communication and before you know it, your sex life will be better than ever.
Confirm your study
Remember I earlier highlighted the importance of carefully studying your woman. Knowing her likes and dislikes, knowing what turns her on and sets her in the mood etc.
It’s not everything one must be told, some things just need to be revealed through taking out the time to consciously watch and study.
Generally, women (and even men as well) love it when their partners are curious and interested in them and also takes out the time to study the little things.
Even conversations with your partner can also give away certain things you should know without asking.
For instance, how they react to certain things can easily tell you their take on that thing without even having to ask them directly.
Confirming your study also has to do with good communication. You have to communicate to confirm what you presume.
So confirming your study is simply a combination of studying them but also communicating with them to know better.
Wisely Chipping in what you might have studied in your conversation can help you confirm how correct you are with your study, especially if you aren’t so sure.
For instance, saying something like “I notice how much you love it when I hug you from behind and rain kisses down your neck”
If you are already doing well with the first 3 points highlighted above, then it would be easy for her to tell you if indeed she actually likes it or not.
Infact, this can even give her the opportunity to chip in something else you might be doing and not know that she likes as well. So you could continue.
But generally, her response to whatever you say would help you confirm if she likes that particular act or reveal how much she likes it or how else she would prefer it.
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